Catholic
Candle
note:
Recently, Catholic Candle published an article examining the special permission
that the Church traditionally gives to a Catholic who is dying, which allows him
to confess to a priest to whom he could not otherwise confess because that
priest is an apostate, a sedevacantist, a compromiser, or had some other serious
problem. That article is here: https://catholiccandle.org/2020/03/26/using-a-compromised-priest-when-dying/
The
article below is based on the authors’ experience of assisting at three Traditional
Catholic funerals and burials without a priest, because we knew of (and know
of) no uncompromising priest to help us. It seems that funerals and burials
without a priest might now become the usual method. Truly, we seem to be in
the time prophesied by Our Lady of La Salette when she predicted in 1846 that
“the Church will be in eclipse.”
However,
it would be an error and overreaction to the evils of our present time, to
rashly suppose that we have no pope and hierarchy (as bad as that pope and
hierarchy are). Catholics are not in a time without shepherds.
We are in a time of exceedingly bad shepherds.
Sedevacantism
is wrong and is (material or formal) schism. Catholic Candle is not
sedevacantist. On the contrary, we published a series of articles showing that
sedevacantism is false (and also showing that former Pope Benedict is not still
the pope). Read the articles here: https://catholiccandle.neocities.org/faith/against-sedevacantism.html
A Traditional Catholic funeral and
burial when there is no uncompromising priest available
At
our death, we would want a Traditional Requiem Mass, including the hymns of the
requiem Mass. This is good and reasonable.
We
must avoid a compromise wake, funeral, and burial.
But
God lovingly placed us in this time of Great Apostasy, for His greater glory
and for our good.
He does not want us to have a Requiem Mass for our funeral when no
uncompromising priest is available. Such a compromise funeral (viz.,
with a compromise priest) is a sin. It would anger God if we were to use a
compromising priest – through our rationalizing that “he is the best we can
find” and that “we need our funeral Mass”. Such compromises are sins for us
and do not help our dearly departed.
If
our loved ones told us while alive that they want a funeral which is, in
reality, a compromise, we should not agree. Further, after their death, we
should not cooperate with their compromising plan. This is like our obligation
not to consent to their wish for cremation nor to cooperate in carrying out
that wish.
Before
our loved one died, he might not have understood why we must stand firm and
refuse his wish for a compromise funeral and burial. But after his death he
will see we are correct and he will understand then. Seeing more clearly after
death, he would not want us to follow the sinful wishes he expressed while
alive.
Our
relatives and friends might become upset because we remain firm in the Faith
out of love for God. If our relatives get angry, this might be a Providential
opportunity for discussions through which they might learn the truth. In any
event, their negative reaction would be a Cross that our Dear Lord lovingly
sends us for our good and for His greater glory.
The
Natural Law shows us the
importance of conducting respectful, loving funerals for our dearly departed.
Our
love for our dearly-departed and the Natural Law require us to respectfully,
prayerfully bury them. St. Augustine, Doctor of the Church, describes the
natural piety all men should have, which demands respect for the dead even on
the natural level:
[I]f the dress
of a father, or his ring, or anything he wore, be precious to his children, in
proportion to the love they bore him, with how much more reason ought we to
care for the bodies of those we love, which they wore far more closely and
intimately than any clothing! For the body is not an extraneous ornament or
aid, but a part of man’s very nature. And therefore, to the righteous of
ancient times the last offices were piously rendered, and sepulchers provided
for them, and obsequies celebrated; and they themselves, while yet alive, gave
commandment to their sons about the burial.
All
civilized peoples honor their dead and treat the bodies of the dead respectfully.
Not only those persons who live the true Catholic Faith, but even the more
civilized pagan peoples wish to keep alive the memory of their dearly departed,
even though those same pagans flounder in great error, in other ways.
Our
holy Faith elevates to a supernatural level our obsequies which are prompted by
our love for our departed relatives and friends.
But
our Holy Mother the Church does so much more than foster these natural
attentions! She is a true mother of Her children and She lovingly cares not
only for their deceased bodies and their memories but more importantly, for
their immortal souls. Our Faith teaches us that at the moment of our death we
are judged and our eternal destiny is fixed. Although most people go to hell, among
those who save their souls most of them must endure the great sufferings of
Purgatory.
Holy
Mother Church knows their great need and lovingly channels our grief into
helping them in their plight. The Church has us devote ourselves to praying
for them. This is a very consoling aspect of our holy Catholic Faith.
But
what good can we do for our departed loved ones, without obtaining a Requiem
Mass for them?
When
we refuse to accept a Requiem Mass from a compromise priest or group, out of
love for God, He will bless our loved one through other means instead. For
example, God has given incredible power to the Holy Rosary in our times since we
do not have the Mass and sacraments.
God
is not abandoning us or our loved ones. He is merely changing His means of
sanctifying us and them, to fit the circumstances into which He lovingly put us.
Out
of love for God and the true Faith, Catholics must courageously stand against
liberalism and compromise. But God is never outdone in generosity and in His
rewards!
Nor
is it the first time in history, that faithful Catholics had to bury their dead
without a priest and Requiem Mass. Sometimes, physical persecution caused the
absence of a good priest and Requiem Mass. For example, God called Japanese
Catholics to this condition for almost 300 years (1587-1873). At other
times, the sheer expanse of great wilderness meant that faithful Catholics died
and were buried without the assistance of a priest.
How
do we conduct a wake, funeral and burial of our loved one, without a priest?
Not
all wakes, funerals and burials present the same extent of opportunities for
our Catholic acts of piety. Below, we briefly recount our recommendations,
some of which are based on what we have done in past wakes, funerals and
burials without a priest. We add some additional recommendations that we will
use in the future, according to circumstances.
After
our loved one’s death, we plan the schedule and invite/announce the schedule in
a manner similar to the customary way for any funeral and burial. Everyone is
welcome! Praying together is an occasion to benefit from our Lord’s promise: “where
there are two or three gathered together in My name, there am I in the midst of
them”.
We
recommend that you combine the wake/visitation and the funeral at the funeral
home. We have found funeral homes to be very accommodating. Schedule the
wake/visitation to occur first, leaving the appropriate number of hours based
on the number of people you expect. Schedule the funeral prayers at the end of
that visitation. Right after those funeral prayers, accompany the body in a
funeral procession to the cemetery.
Funeral
prayers
We
have used the funeral home’s director to announce the beginning of the funeral
prayers, similar to the customary way that funeral home directors have often
announced that the recitation of the Rosary was about to begin at a wake.
Again, we have found funeral homes to be very accommodating.
Recite
the Sorrowful Mysteries of the Rosary. Reason and Catholic Tradition show that
the Sorrowful Mysteries of the Rosary are the fitting set of mysteries for a
funeral, whereas the liberals and conciliar Catholics often use the Glorious
Mysteries at a wake or the graveside (if they pray the rosary at all) to
suggest that the deceased is already in glory and that everyone goes to heaven.
The
Sorrowful Mysteries fit with the other signs of sorrow the Church has
customarily used on a funeral day, e.g., black is the liturgical color
of the day, with ornaments removed from the altar or shrouded in penitential
wrappings, purple is the color of the tabernacle veil, symbolizing penance. Requiem
Masses omit the Gloria and other signs of rejoicing. Clearly, a wake or
graveside is not the time for the Glorious Mysteries and for rejoicing.
In
addition to the Sorrowful Mysteries of the Rosary, say such other prayers as
are fitting, for example:
·
The
Memorare (“Remember, Oh Most Gracious Virgin Mary…”)
·
The
Hail Holy Queen
·
Oh
God, Whose Only begotten Son
·
The
St. Michael the Archangel prayer
·
Psalm
129
·
Psalm
50
·
Various
invocations of St. Joseph, patron of a holy death
·
Eternal
rest grant unto him (or her), Oh Lord …
The
prayers listed above are the ones we have used to date (based on the length of
the funeral prayers requested by the family of the dearly departed). But
perhaps in future funerals we will read the prayers of the requiem Mass. This
could be done slowly and prayerfully, in Latin – this works out surprisingly
well. Meanwhile, everyone else reads the translated prayers in his own
missal. Many of you might choose that the Mass prayers be read out loud in
English, although reading them in the Roman Church’s own language (Latin) is a
great idea and allows everyone else to use his own missal’s translation.
Another
idea we have reserved for a possible future use is to have one of the men read
a Traditional Catholic sermon for a funeral Mass or On Death, especially
one from a Doctor of the Church.
Such a sermon would be a good reminder and source of instruction for the
faithful and would be a work of apostolate, “planting seeds” among
non-Catholics and conciliar Catholics who are present.
Don’t
open the occasion up to everyone offering his own public prayers. Do not allow
people to ad lib “prayers”, protestant style, such as: “Lord, thank you
for giving me those years playing basketball with [name]”. Keep the prayers
Catholic! Keep them Traditional!
In
our times of great apostasy, the moral support and consolations from these
prayers, which the bereaved family and friends experience, is similar to what
customarily occurs at a Catholic funeral and burial.
Requiem
hymns
Besides
these traditional prayers, sing Traditional Catholic requiem hymns. As St.
Augustine assures us: “He who sings, prays twice.”
Our
Faith is wonderfully rich in traditional Catholic hymns, especially Gregorian
Chant. Challenge yourself! Be generous and sing all of the verses. Our Lord
is never out-done in generosity!
If possible, put together a schola to sing
some of the traditional funeral hymns, e.g., the Dies Irae and
the Libera me from the Requiem Mass. If you don’t know these hymns,
then learn them now so you are ready! They are beautiful and will prepare you
to assist in this schola for future funerals “in the catacombs”.
For the glory of God, if you are learning the
requiem hymns, you can use the sheet music here: https://www.scribd.com/document/452943209/Requiem-Mass-Sheet-Music
You
can practice these hymns by singing along with these recordings (linked below):
Gradual
from the Requiem Mass
·
Audio
recording: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ZS23Z94NLM
·
Scrolling
sheet music and recording: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-zpHs8bf4k4
Tract
from the Requiem Mass:
·
Scrolling
sheet music and recording: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=np_slIOn5Jk
·
Audio
recording: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bTJH-vbTY8Y
Dies Irae, the sequence of the Requiem
Mass:
·
Audio
recording: https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/f/f2/Dies.irae.ogg
·
Alternate
sheet music and recording: http://gregorian-chant-hymns.com/hymns-2/dies-ire.html
Libera
me:
·
Audio
recording: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S2_pnxN-tes
·
Audio
recording: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4sI0gZkYFGk
In
Paradisum:
·
Audio
recording: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gu7mM_zqapA
·
Audio
recording and scrolling sheet music: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S7F-N-Yd8dE
These
are the Requiem hymns we have used in funerals to date.
The
above Catholic prayers and hymns give fitting and traditional channels for our
grief. No one knows how to grieve and to pay his last respects better than a Traditional
Catholic. The Church shows us how to do this – with these prayers and hymns.
No
Eulogy
Do
not give a eulogy! Our goal at this funeral is primarily to do good to the
deceased. This means praying for the deceased, not praising him so that people
suppose that the deceased does not need prayers, e.g., “He (or she) never
said an unkind word in his life.”
Likewise,
we should never say the deceased is in heaven: “He is looking down from a
better place, smiling upon us”. That is un-Catholic! It sends the wrong
message in three ways:
Ø It falsifies
the truth. Despite our love for the deceased (and, perhaps, our personal
admiration for him), we don’t know he is in heaven,
so we should not suggest that we know he is there.
Ø It tells people
they should not pray for the deceased and he does not need prayers, since he is
already in heaven. For the same reason it is bad for us to say “let us pray
for him in case he is not in heaven already.” This suggests that
praying for him is not very important because it is unlikely that he needs the
prayers anyway. Some so-called “conservative” conciliar groups, such as the indult groups
(including the N-SSPX)
incoherently say both that the person is in heaven and also that
we should pray for him.
This is not only inconsistent but is also contrary to what the deceased person
now would want. The deceased person does not now care that people think he was
wonderful. He wants and needs prayers for his repose! Don’t work
against what he needs by eulogizing him!
Ø We are not
exceptionally holy, nor are our deceased loved ones. If we suggest by our
eulogy that ordinary Catholics (like us and them) go straight to heaven (bypassing
Purgatory) so that we know they are in heaven at the time of the
funeral, it misleads people into falsely believing that it is easy to go
straight to heaven. Although all of us should explicitly have as our goal to
be straight-to-heaven saints, this is difficult to accomplish (although
a very worthy goal). The great saints achieved this goal. But we mislead
people and falsify the difficulty of being straight-to-heaven saints
when we suggest ordinary Catholics achieve this goal.
Burial
at the cemetery
When
the funeral procession arrives at the cemetery, recite the Sorrowful Mysteries
of the Rosary again, together, and lower the casket into the grave during the
Rosary. Remember, the Rosary is especially powerful in our times when uncompromising
priests are unavailable to us.
Continue
the Rosary while witnessing the dirt being placed in the hole. Witnessing the
burial itself serves to add further closure to the event and our grief.
At
one burial, we placed flowers on the casket before it was lowered into the
ground (and before the start of the Rosary). At another burial, we dropped
flowers onto the casket as soon as it was lowered into the ground. These are
pleasing human gestures, symbolizing that our hearts are buried with our loved
one’s body. We used flowers we brought from the funeral. You could use these gestures
if you wish.
At
two burials, we instructed the cemetery (ahead of time) to provide a pile of
dirt and a shovel. Then one of the men starts by placing a few shovels-full of
dirt into the hole, then offering the shovel to other men (especially the close
friends and relatives) to follow his example and place shovels of dirt into the
hole. This is literal participation in the Corporal Work of Mercy, To Bury
the Dead.
In
our experience, the cemeteries have been very accommodating to these requests. It
is not necessary to continue this burial ceremony longer than you deem best.
The cemetery workers will complete the task.
With
the burial concluded, we find our souls consoled. We have the satisfaction of
having truly grieved in the way the Catholic Church wants us to grieve and
knows we need to.
After
leaving the cemetery, you can have a post-burial luncheon, as is customary in
many places.
Additional
reflections
Keep
things organized. Arrange ahead of time for one of the men to lead the
prayers, with everyone else answering. We have found that some conciliar
Catholics join in answering too, praying with us, and even some protestants do
also. Although Catholics must never participate in non-Catholic prayer assemblies,
the funeral we are describing is a Catholic funeral and the
Church does not bar non-Catholics from joining in these Catholic prayers
recited by Catholics at a Catholic event. This is
no different than anytime in the history of the Church when a non-Catholic attended
a Catholic wake or Catholic funeral or burial and joined in the public (Catholic)
prayers recited there.
We
find that this funeral and burial open up conversations afterwards, with
non-Catholics and conciliar Catholics and provide opportunities to inform them
about the Catholic Faith. However, whether non-Catholics and conciliar
Catholics react negatively or positively, this funeral and burial are a great
opportunity to stand for Christ the King and live our Faith openly and
fearlessly.
Of
course, our attire for the funeral and burial should be our best funeral
clothes (church clothes). This is important. It reminds us that what we are
doing is important and is dedicated to God. Our fallen human nature inclines
to sloth and responds to this idea by saying “we know we’re speaking to God
even without dressing up.” True, but the proper clothes show the proper
respect for the dead and, besides that, we need the help of this reminder.
This is just like it is important (and is the Catholic way) for a priest to
dress like a priest even among persons who don’t need to be informed by what he
wears, that he is a priest.
Proper
attire also helps us give a good example to others, who often come to funerals
in casual, torn and slovenly clothes.
Sprinkle
holy water on the grave and the casket.
Select
funeral cards and prayers which pertain to seeking mercy for the deceased. Pick
pictures of the Sacred Heart of Jesus, of the Immaculate Heart of Mary, of the
Crucifixion, of the Agony in the Garden, etc.
Avoid
all suggestion on the funeral card (in the picture and the text) that the
deceased is known to be in heaven. For example, do not select a resurrection
picture for the funeral card. Do not select a conciliar prayer for the back of
the card. Have the funeral card state when the person died, not when he
“entered into eternal life” because “entering into eternal life” means he went
to heaven.
Conclusion
The
best thing we can do for our deceased loved one, is to give him an
uncompromising Traditional Catholic funeral and burial. We must uphold the
Faith and not succumb to the sentimentality or human respect of using a
compromise priest or group because our dearly departed “needs his Requiem
Mass”.
The
above article provides ideas how to conduct an uncompromising funeral and
burial. Many of these ideas have been successfully used in three funerals and
burials.